If by "devotion" and "fidelity," you mean "idiocy" and "naivete," then yeah, I'm right with you. I'm sorry, but I would have an awfully difficult time trusting someone who didn't respect me enough to talk about how they felt. This wasn't a flight of fancy, or a quick runaway -- she planned this out, and then furthered the deception with the fake kidnapping story. Loyalty is one thing, but this just extends into the ill-advised.
Yeah, Ben, I'm with Geoff on this one. There's an old saying: Go into marriage with your eyes wide open, then, when you're married, keep them half closed (or something like that).
Yes, we should overlook petty flaws in our spouses, but we should look at our POTENTIAL spouses very critically. Marrying the wrong person can create decades of hardship, not just for the spouses, but also for children.
The fact is Mason did NOT marry Wilbanks when he put that engagement ring on her finger. The commitment takes place at the wedding, the sacrament -- which is why you would invite 600 people to come watch the ceremony in the first place. Engagement is a time for scrutiny and reflection, to make sure that this really is a wise lifelong commitment to make.
And if the fiancee is someone of questionable sanity, someone who fakes abductions, and if communication is so poor that the groom and bride can't even discuss their concerns in an intelligent way -- guess what, this is not a wise, lifelong commitment to make.
If Mason is a real man -- not just a guy with a sentimental attachment to a love lost -- he won't subject his future children to growing up in this sort of dysfunctional situation.
If nothing else, he should demand some heavy-duty counseling before tying the knot.
I'm with them. You come across as a chivalrous guy and I understand the point you are trying to make, but you are veering into hopelessly romantic territory.
Jennifer Wilbanks isn't a frightened, bullied teen; she's a 32 year old, grown woman. It is inconceivable that an adult would do something this bizarre to another adult whom she presumably loves enough to marry. She showed absolutely no respect for his pride or feelings, nor any consideration for the literally hundreds of people who were not only inconvenienced but doubtless worried sick by her actions.
She is either a deeply immature drama queen or someone who has serious mental problems. In either event, John Mason should be thankful he dodged a bullet and get out of it, rather than stick with her. Think about it - would you really feel comfortable with someone who is capable of pulling a stunt like this as the mother of your children?
The men and women who stay with their spouses after accidents resulting in paralysis; those who stay through Alzheimer's, etc. are the people who deserve your respect for their loyalty. I agree with the comment above that loyalty and blind stupidity are not the same thing, and that John seems to be demonstrating more of the latter than the former.
Good points all. I would certainly not disagree with Mr Mason should he decide in future not to marry Ms Wilbanks. I just hate to see the guy get derided as a schlub for sticking to his decision, even if it is a schlub-like act.
One would think he knows her quite well and as such has reasons, unknown to us, for deciding to stick with getting married. Is it a bad idea for him to do that? From what I know at this point, it certainly seems like one. But it is not a certainty that things will work out badly in future. And since he has made his decision, I don't see the point in condemning the guy for it.
I'm torn on this one. On the one hand, it heartens me to see that a man has so much fidelity that he'd stand by his fiance in the face of something so crazy. I do believe that she needs people to stand by her right now.
But let's face it, she didn't just "runaway." She told people that she'd been kidnapped. That adds a whole new level of crazy, in my opinion. I think it also shows a histrionic personality.
There's a fine line between faith and stupidity. He's on that razor's edge.
It's not really condemnation, per se, Ben. I believe that people should have the right to make stupid decisions. Doesn't mean he's not making a stupid decision.
I think she's a lunatic and he's an idiot.